Sunday, April 15, 2018

Superman goes for a swim

A few years ago I found this stunning image online and am still in awe of how beautiful this guy is! This photo is captivating to me for so many reasons. Not only is this guy extremely handsome, his body is amazing too... slim yet muscular. What a beautiful man! Some guys are just born with it! Of course, the fact that he's all wet and wearing nothing but a skimpy red speedo is especially sexy too. :) And the way that he's holding onto the sides of his bathing suit, as though he wants to yank it down... what a tease! So yes, this is quite an alluring image in my books. I know it's silly of me, but I'm just gaga over this guy! With his jet black hair, the red speedo and those muscles he totally looks like a real life Superman or Superboy!

Back in February I had posted this image here, but a few days a go I deleted the post. I was feeling down and was in a negative frame of mind. The negative voices in my head had me thinking that I was being "too gay" for having posted it and then gushing over him, just as I've done above. There was even a moment where I considered deleting this entire blog. That's my internalized homophobia at work once again! Not to worry though, this sexy Superman has saved me by helping me to realize that there's no such thing as being "too gay". There's nothing wrong with my finding this guy attractive. He is attractive! I have to just be myself and allow myself to say what I feel, and what I feel is "OMG, this guy is totally hot!!!" I'd also like to say, that if the gorgeous guy who posed for this photo wanted to marry me, I'd happily say yes to that.... and have his children too! :)

Hmmm, was that too much? LOL!!! :)

Okay, skip that. I'll settle for having him come over to my house to drink lemonade while playing some 70's disco tunes and dancing for me in that cute little red speedo! Then I get to give him a bubble bath! I think that's a reasonable compromise.

In any case, here's a very helpful tip for other gay guys out there who agree with me that this guy is potentially the most gorgeous guy on earth. If you're not already at your computer, go there and follow these critically important instructions: save this photo to your computer, find it in your files and put your cursor over the photo, "right click" then select "set as background", choose "yes" and viola! This Cutie Patootie is now pinned to your desktop.  From now on, each time you use your computer you will be transported to a blissful, utopian world! Technology is so remarkable isn't it?

I'd say that you can thank me later but really the thanks should go to the chiseled hottie above who doffed his clothes and got all wet for this fabulous photo shoot! It was a very nice thing for him to do, don't you think? Why yes! So thank you, oh mysterious unnamed hottie with the messy wet hair that I want to run my fingers through, in addition to doing other things which are too numerous to mention but would be a lot of fun and create very, very fond memories... your handsome nakedness has made the world a most happier place indeed! :) Please do continue along this oh so virtuous path, and send me the pics when you're done.

To conclude, I hope that wherever this beautiful guy is in the world, that he is happy and with someone who knows how freekin' lucky they are. I'm just saying!

-Mikey :)

Saturday, January 6, 2018

Hurray for being gay!


Above is a photo that I found online. I stumbled upon it while on Pinterest and regretfully have no idea who created it, but I do truly love it! I've used this picture elsewhere on this blog too. It's undeniably a very gay picture. A handsome young slim guy in a tiny speedo jumping into the air via an artsy collage of perfectly posed images that show off his body... yep, very gay! :)

This picture, as silly as it is, makes me feel happy and proud to be gay. It also reminds me of my 20s, when I was young and slim like this guy is (as seen above on the title banner for this blog). I used to go for bike rides to the beach where I would change into my speedo and go swimming. Despite being a shy person I was actually brave enough to wear a speedo in public! After I went for a swim, I'd sit on my towel and enjoy the summer day while basking in the sun or reading a book. I felt just as alive and free as the beautiful guy depicted in this picture. Goodness, he certainly is that! Very beautiful!

For me, this image also captures the spirituality of being gay, as though this young guy is letting his true gay self out to shine in the sun, free from social inhibitions or hatred. It's like he's saying "Hey world, I'm gay! Look at me!" while not caring who the heck knows it, which for me is quite a soothing and peaceful message. Being openly gay is a lot easier today than it ever was, but there are still many obstacles and "micro aggressions" to deal with day in and day out. It's still certainly not a walk in the park, or as easy as being heterosexual. Sometimes I get rather blue when I think about the negative messaging that's still out there about being gay, so I've printed a copy of this picture to hang up where I can see it every day. It reminds me not to focus on the negative and instead to focus on the positive aspects of being gay. To let my own light shine, and to always jump in the sun while wearing my speedo, even if it's just in my heart and spirit! :)

-Mikey




Monday, November 13, 2017

Gay Superheroes from Pythor Comics

Sweethearts: Dominion Kid and Blue Jay Boy

I grew up as a closeted gay kid in the 70's and 80's, and as a somewhat closeted gay young adult in the 90's, which was quite a challenge to say the least. One of the things that I had always wanted back then, and that I had searched for but never truly found, was a gay role model in popular culture that I could identify with. Someone who was "just like me". Even a fictional gay character in a comic book or a TV show would have made a world of difference to help me become more comfortable with being gay. Just to see a gay character, someone like myself that I didn't feel was "too gay" or "too stereotypical", reflected in a movie or storybook would have given me the courage to come out a lot earlier in my life... which is certainly a much healthier thing to do than supressing your true identity and feelings for the sake of conforming to social "norms".

With this in mind, I decided that I wanted to write stories that included gay characters in key leading roles which would appeal to kids, teens and young adults. I can't go back in time, but I can work toward helping gay youth and young adults of today find the cultural role models that I never had. This is where Blue Jay Boy and Dominion Kid come into the picture. When Blue Jay Boy meets Dominion Kid there is instant chemistry, and the two young heroes become a couple. They're featured among the main team of superheroes in my Pythor Comics stories about Canadian Crusader and the Canuck Crusaders. I've just begun to write and publish these stories, which I also illustrate, so stay tuned for more as my book series takes shape!

Griffon Shadow, Guardian of the Underworld.
 
Another of my gay superheroes is Griffon Shadow, who is the main character in his own series. Griffon's boyfriend is the long haired winged warrior St. Michael the Archangel, who resides in purgatory as the Keeper of Souls. Together they battle evil forces to maintain order in Hades and prevent the earth from being overrun by evil.
 
I'm quite excited about making all of these stories available in full colour very soon. This page will be updated once the books are available. Until then I've published some mini-comic books online, which can be read for free on my other blog site at Mikey's Art and Puppetry Blog.
 
 
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Text and images copyright Mikey Artelle, 2017. Blue Jay Boy, Dominion Kid, Griffon Shadow and related characters names and likeness are TM and copyright, Mikey Artelle. All rights reserved.

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

Being "In the Closet"

Being "In the Closet" is when someone who is gay has yet to open up and tell significant people in their life about their sexual orientation. Typically, being and staying in the closet causes others to be uncertain of what the gay individual's sexual preference might be, though many will typically assume the person is heterosexual. 

One of the thoughtless and cruel methods of bullying used among teens, as well as some immature adults, is to call someone gay simply if they exhibit what are stereotypically considered to be gay characteristics such as a guy being effeminate, or a girl who is strong and boyish. In such cases, the person being targeted may not actually be gay at all, though sometimes they are but may still be "closeted" around their family, or even to themselves, which makes such bullying particularly cruel and inhumane.

People stay in the closet when they don't feel that it's safe to be openly gay in their particular community or social environment. Unfortunately, one of the realities of the world is that if you are different from the main stream in any way, you are a potential target for the thoughtlessness and cruelty of others. However, such criticism can be diminished when you embrace that which makes you different, love yourself, and realize that you are unique... the only "you" on the entire planet!... as then it is easy to understand just how special beyond measure you truly are.

Even if you are in the closet, your being here right now, on this earth, is truly a miracle!

Despite the many ways that human beings are different from each other, or how illogical it is to expect every human being on the planet to be heterosexual, we unfortunately live in a predominately heterosexist society. As such, gay kids typically learn to be ashamed of who they are even though there is nothing wrong with them. This is one of the injustices or faults of Western culture.

The result is that later in life it takes time to accept being gay and make the first bold step of telling someone. The earlier in life that a gay person can come out, the better it will be for their present and future self. It's not healthy to stay in the closet and it also prevents you from getting on with life, having life experiences, finding a boyfriend, establishing a career, building friendships, and so on.

However, it goes without saying that all gay people do not have the exact same experience with coming out, accepting who they are, and then finding a partner. There's no formula or pattern that must be followed. Everyone is on their own journey and deserves the freedom of coming to terms with being gay in whatever amount of time they need. Variables such as a person's surroundings, the tolerance or intolerance of friends and family, and a person's physical location on the globe, all have an effect on how each of us muddles through it all. This is why some gay folks are able to be so openly gay and have a partner, while others living in the same city choose to be patient and give themselves more time before coming out.

Of course, one needs to be careful not to fall into the habit of using "being in the closet" as an excuse for not facing the uncomfortable task of coming out, as avoiding coming out can be unhealthy and detrimental to one's well being. Admittedly, I did just that for many years which I regret, so I am speaking from experience. You are only young once so coming out during your teens is ideal. But forcing someone to come out, or outing them against their wishes is wrong and cruel, no matter how good your intentions might be, as being outed only makes a person feel more powerless in a world that they already find overwhelming. I would also add that outing someone under the guise of "helping them" is a selfish thing to do as such an act is not about them but about you. Though you may think you are helping, what you are really doing is making their very personal situation about you, "the helper", rather than about them. If you really have a closeted person's best interests in mind, treat them as an adult and allow them the respect and dignity of being in control of their own life choices.

It must be up to the individual to make the choice one way or the other to come out, when they are ready.

Supporting someone who is gay by letting them be in control of when and where they will come out is the best thing that a friend can do. Simply being a shoulder to lean on and someone to talk to, to confide in, and to listen, is often more helpful than you might realize.

Rest assured, the injustice of shaming gay kids and the need for gay folks to come out later in life is slowly being eradicated by those who are companionate, forward thinkers regardless of their sexual preference. Gay kids today can take comfort in knowing that the laws protecting homosexuals exist as a result of homosexuals and heterosexuals working together to create an inclusive society.

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Originally Posted March 2016
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Monday, September 11, 2017

Playing with Dolls Doesn't Make Kids Gay

Mego Batman and Robin 8 inch dolls from my childhood.

Here's a news flash! Believe it or not playing with dolls does not make a child gay, nor does it "prove" that a child is gay! The Mego superhero dolls shown above were extremely popular in the 1970's, so much so that they were manufactured for a full decade, from 1972 to 1981. As such, almost every kid in my school played with these dolls, not just the kids who were gay. In fact, boys have been playing with these types of dolls since the 1960's and the toys are still very popular today, mostly among adult collectors who had them during their childhood. Therefore you really can't give gay kids from the 60's or 70's, like me, all the credit for supporting this multi-million dollar industry of "boys dolls" for the past 50 plus years.

Yet, even today in 2017 there is still a stigma about calling these toys "dolls" rather than the preferred term "action figures", as apparently the latter is more macho. It also allows folks to be in denial about the reality that the toy they like so much is in fact a doll. This desire to hide the truth is evidence enough that there is still a strong and false perception that "Boys shouldn't play with dolls", as it is considered in some way an indication of their masculinity and heterosexuality. Such thinking is a ridiculous and outdated concept, not unlike "A woman's place is in the kitchen".

I've posted more about Dolls for Boys on my doll blog, here: http://mikeysdolls.blogspot.ca/p/introduction.html

My buff little Robin doll showing off his hot little chest!
He's also wearing a tiny pair of removable green underwear with matching elf shoes
while showing off his bare legs, which certainly makes this one gay little doll!
No wonder Robin was my favourite!

The fact is, I would have been gay regardless of what types of toys I played with. Even at such a young age as six or seven I had an awareness of liking the male figure and a specific interest in boys. So in regards to my dolls, when I was in grade one I recall being very interested in the sculpted muscular chest on my Robin Mego doll (above), and liked how his shirt opened at the front to show him off. But my Robin doll didn't "make me gay" because I already was gay, even before my parents had bought the doll for me! And I was a selective gay kid, as I clearly preferred playing with Robin over Batman. Heck, at least my Robin doll permitted me to enjoy an innocent expression of my gayness as a child before the weight of the world would come crashing in on me as a gay teenager!

With my Muppet collection in the mid 1980's when I was about 10 years old.

I also remember as a kid, drawing a picture of the Incredible Hulk and thinking about how much fun it was to draw his pecks and muscles. Then in grade two, I remember being very interested in a boy in my glass. He had blond hair and for some odd reason one day he took his shirt off in class to reveal a white sleeveless undershirt. The teacher scolded him and told him to put his shirt back on right away, and I recall being quite fascinated while watching him. As far as I'm concerned, memories such as these are evidence enough to demonstrate that my gayness is indeed natural... aside from the other more obvious indications during my teens!

So no, playing with dolls does not make kids gay, just as playing with dolls will not make kids heterosexual. The only thing that playing with dolls might cause in children is happiness. Isn't that remarkable!


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Originally Posted March 2016
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Saturday, August 5, 2017

Cutest gay couple ever!

 
I found this photo online.
This picture of a cute gay couple kissing is so adorable!!!
I love this photo!
 

Conclusion


A handsome Christmas photo from 1994 when I was 21.

Although being gay hasn't been easy for me, I am very proud of how I endured and persevered over the years. The struggle has knocked me down a number of times, but I always, always get back up. I'm not made of Teflon or steel, I'm just very stubborn which in this case is a good thing!

When I was very young and came to understand the social and political situation that goes along with being a gay man, I also eventually realized that while I may not have been given the choice to be gay, or the choice to be in a Catholic school, or the choice to be in this specific predicament, I knew that the choice to always get back up again after being knocked down was something that nobody else could decide but me.

And here I am, a stubborn, shy warrior, still standing.

For that, I give myself a big gold star. Without question there were times when I didn't get back up right away. Sometimes it's necessary to be patient with yourself and take the time to think things through, find some support and talk to someone. But I knew that I would get back up again when I was ready. I refuse to let those who poisoned my young mind win this battle, so I will always get back up. Not only is this a promise that I made with myself, but it's also something that I owe myself. After all, it's rather silly to be down about others treating you with disrespect if you aren't going to treat yourself with respect either, so I owe it to myself to always get back up.
 
It's quite remarkable that society today has changed so drastically from when I was a child. There is an entirely different outlook towards homosexuals now that is positive and supportive. So while it's easy to stay stuck in the same familiar mindset of the past, the truth of the matter is that today I also have the choice to move on and leave all that unwanted negativity behind. 
 
I can choose to replace those feelings of shame, self-hate and anger with positive feelings of pride and self-love for who I am. Quite simply, I cannot continue to let the negativity of those who are anti-gay determine the extent to which I can live a life of happiness. That is my choice to make, not theirs. Furthermore, if someone is anti-gay or homophobic and they make derogatory comments (such as gay jokes or pretending to be gay for laughs) I know now that such comments have nothing to do with me. I'm not the ignorant one, and I am not responsible for someone else's ignorance, that is all on them. Someone else's ignorance has no reflection on me. Looking at things this way, I can see how such derogatory words or attitudes are completely separate from me.
 
In addition, such negative words have no merit unless I choose to give them merit, and why would I do that? Why give away my own power just to give some ignorant, derogatory words power? If I take that power back then the negative words become meaningless. They don't deserve to have power. They don't even deserve my attention. Why let others manipulate me by invoking a response? I'll keep my power from now on, thank you! ;)
 
Of course, there will be times when I'll speak up for myself, but I will pick and choose my battles rather than let others choose them for me.
 
Clearly, I needed a lot of time for my own journey, but I can now say without any fake pretences that I like being gay and I'm happy that I'm gay! It's part of my unique personality. The lessons that I've learned from my struggle to accept being gay have made me a more compassionate person. If given the choice today between being gay or not I wouldn't change a thing... guys are just too cute! ;) I'm proud to be gay, and if you're a gay guy like me, I hope that you're proud too!

Carry on brave warrior! Onward and upward!

Thanks for reading! ;)

-Mikey

 Here I am with all of my hand-made superhero puppets in March 2016 when I was 42.




...and another picture of Chachi! ;)



THE END


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Originally Posted March 2016
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This excludes the pictures that were found online including those of Chachi from the TV series Happy Days. (Scott Baio, thank you for existing! You are a handsome, dark haired, hot stud muffin of boyish 70's perfection! ...and cute too!)